The RED flags you're ignoring...

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By: Hend Roubaiy

When we fall for someone new, we tend to see them as perfect people, even when they are far from perfect. We all do it and there's no shame in love making you blind, but it is always important to keep an eye out for red flags, and to know when to walk away from your girlfriend/boyfriend if you see any of these in your relationship. You probably think these have to be big things like getting cheated on but really, red flags are much more difficult to recognize and that’s why you probably don’t see them.

1. They don't make time for you

If your girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't choose to make time for you, to text you, to see you, to spend time with you this means you are not a priority in their life. If you find yourself making all the plans, always asking to see them, always texting first, this should be your first red light.

2. The relationship is mostly physical

There’s nothing wrong with being physical in your relationship, it’s a form of getting close and intimate with your partner, but if you find that all your partner wants to do all the time is get physical, this could mean they’re using you or don’t value you.

3. The relationship is all about them

You watch all the movies or shows they want to, you hang out when its suitable only for your SO, all the conversations seem to be about them, and you eat pasta almost every time you hang out because it's their favorite food. If you see patterns of selfishness in the relationship, you are most likely with a narcissistic partner and this is a huge red sign.

4. They don't try to get along with your friends and family

If your partner does not try and include themselves in your life in all aspects they can, such as your friends or family, it probably means they don't plan on staying in your life for the long term. Be careful to watch out if your partner makes an effort to get close to your friends or family.

5. Your friends don't like your SO

I’m not saying you should ever base your relationship on other people’s approval or disapproval but if you notice that none of your friends like your partner, there probably is a good reason for that, a reason which you don’t see because of your love for them and you should watch out for the reasons your friends dislike your partner.

6. They check out other people

If your partner constantly follows other girls on instagram, or looks at other girls in public, or your girlfriend constantly looks at other guys and makes new guy friends all the time, it’s probably a red flag of their loyalty for you and their respect. It could also mean they’re trying to get backup options in case your relationship fails.

7. They want all your time 24/7

Although this seems like a good thing, if your SO does not let you have a life of your own, and expects your attention all the time, and all your time to be with them, this dependency is also a red flag as your life will slowly become revolved all around them and you will lose a lot of things that matter to you.

8. They blame you for every argument

If you are with a defensive partner that can never take accountability, this is probably something you will never be able to change. You will find yourself apologizing every time and this is a red flag of their respect for you since they make no effort to recognize they can be wrong too.

9. They don't make future plans with you

If your partner does not talk about the future with you, I’m sorry to tell you but they probably don’t see a future with you. Most men are proven to talk about a future with their SO within a month of knowing them. Men usually can know if they want their SO in their life for the long run much faster than women can.

10. They make you feel bad

The last red flag is how you feel about yourself in the relationship. This is by far the most important one. Take a step back and ask yourself if they make you happy more than they make you upset. Love should make you feel happier and smile like an idiot, not cry and feel bad and argue. Watch out what your partner is offering you, and trust me if they are making you upset more than they are bringing you happiness, the minute you detach or leave them, you will find a great sense of happiness in your life that will make you realize what their presence was taking away from you.

These are 10 red flags you should keep your eyes out for, whether you are a guy or a girl, whether you've just met your partner or you've been dating for years.

Always remember you can never change a person, so you should never overlook red flags and know when to leave. And for my ladies, as tik tok preaches, if you can't change a man, then change THE man. Whatever someone doesn’t do for you, someone else always will and that is the message for the day, so stop avoiding these red flags and walk away from anything that does not offer you happiness.